This lady was great! My favorite speakers probably went Bob Goff, Patrick Lencioni, and Dr. Brene Brown. She is a groundbreaking researcher into the topics of shame, worthiness and courage. She wrote a book called Daring Greatly and she shared some of that information with us.
Love and belonging are irreducible needs.
People need to be seen and loved.
Love is not something we do by ourselves, it grows through connection.
It's very difficult to love people more than we love ourselves.
People need to be seen and loved, need to belong , and need to be brave.
Love is messy and hard. It's a struggle.
Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives.
Love and belonging are two irreducible needs of men, women and children. In their absence is suffering.
We can't give what we don't have.
We cannot give help if we ourselves cannot ask for it.
When you judge yourself for asking for help, you are always judging when you give help.
A leader models the courage to ask the questions, not to have all of the answers.
We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and most powerful selves to be deeply seen and known.
Love is a practice, not just a profession.
What kills love (shame, blame, and withholding), kills organizations.
Without failure there can be no innovation.
If you want to be innovating you better be praying for lots of mistakes.
Shame can only rise for a certain amount of time before people disengage to self protect.
People aren't looking for perfection, they are looking for people who practice love.
The space between how we behave and what we practice everyday is where we lose people.
Blame is the simple discharging in pain and discomfort.
Blame is toxic in organizations as much as it is in relationships.
Feedback is a function of respect.
Lack of feedback is the number 1 reason for leaving a company.
Feedback by definition should be vulnerable. We don't like it because it's uncomfortable.
You can't be good at giving feedback if you aren't willing to be vulnerable.
You can choose courage or comfort but you can't choose both.
You have to make a space for people to show up and be seen for who they are.
Belonging can't have checkboxes attached to it.
People are desperate for belonging.
People want to be a part of something that's bigger than themselves.
We were born to be brave.
Shame is universal.
It's not the critic who counts... the credit belongs to the man who is in the arena. - Theodore Roosevelt
I want to be in the arena and I don't think I have much of a choice. My faith calls me to be courageous every day.
Have clarity about your values and someone who loves you because of your imperfections.
If you are not in the arena, I'm not interested or open to your feedback.
Contribute more than you criticize.
Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts
Sunday, August 11, 2013
WCAGLS and Bob Goff
Bob Goff is hilarious and so full of wisdom! I loved his stories and could have listened to him talk for at least another hour. He was great! I think him and Patrick Lencioni made the Global Leadership Summit. I bought Bob's book, Love Does months ago, but have not gotten around to reading it yet. But now, after hearing him speak, I am more eager to read it than ever! Just like my other posts, below are notes from Bob's session.
Love God. Love People. Do stuff.
Let it develop over time. Do not rush it, it ruins it.
Live a life worthy of the call you have received.
See people for who they are becoming.
Say to people, "It's good to see ya!"
Let all that you do be done in love.
I want to hear God say, "You are who I made you to be."
Put the exclamation point after the right stuff.
I used to want to fix people, but now, I just want to be with them.
Nothing will ever separate us from the love of God.
God's ability to forgive us is not limited by our ability to get it.
God wants to blow your minds. He took the foolish things of the World to shame the wise so that no one can boast.
If you create some margin, Jesus will shove some terrific things in that space.
Too often, we are posers. Don't be afraid. Be you. Live a life worthy of the calling you have received.
Leadership is more than giving pointers.
If we lead strong, we will lead people towards Jesus.
1 John 3:18
Love God. Love People. Do stuff.
Let it develop over time. Do not rush it, it ruins it.
Live a life worthy of the call you have received.
See people for who they are becoming.
Say to people, "It's good to see ya!"
Let all that you do be done in love.
I want to hear God say, "You are who I made you to be."
Put the exclamation point after the right stuff.
I used to want to fix people, but now, I just want to be with them.
Nothing will ever separate us from the love of God.
God's ability to forgive us is not limited by our ability to get it.
God wants to blow your minds. He took the foolish things of the World to shame the wise so that no one can boast.
If you create some margin, Jesus will shove some terrific things in that space.
Too often, we are posers. Don't be afraid. Be you. Live a life worthy of the calling you have received.
Leadership is more than giving pointers.
If we lead strong, we will lead people towards Jesus.
1 John 3:18
WCAGLS and Chris Brown
Another guy I had never heard of but man, he knocked his session out of the park! Chris Brown is a passionate Pastor at North Coast Church. I have this dream of traveling the U.S. to visit giant mega churches. I would give anything (well almost anything) to visit Elevation Church and North Point in a heart beat. In addition to those two churches and numerous others, I have now added North Coast Church to my list. Hopefully, I'll make it there someday, but for now, I have notes from his session at the Global Leadership Summit to reflect back on.
The Bible says, "Tell leaders the heart they are going to suffer with."
Sin is sin. Call it what it is.
With spiritual leadership, you serve your staff.
Your pride and ego are going to constantly hurt.
Our calling has to trump culture.
Can we empower other? Even if they take our power?
Ask yourself, "How can I be the best Jesus I can be?"
Can you celebrate people even when they are better than you?
Do I expand His kingdom or my reputation?
What difference does the Holy Spirit make in the way I lead?
If a non- believer had my job would they be doing it differently? The answer better be yes!
It will cost you a lot to be like Jesus, but it cost Him a whole lot more.
Joseph lost his colorful coat, but found character.
Jesus said, "Out serve your team and make them better."
Don't let the great things of leadership distract you from the God things of leadership.
As leaders, we might have the title, but whose kingdom is it?
It's not about greatness, it is about serving others.
Spiritual leadership will always be different than secular leadership.
If you read this, THANK YOU, Chris Brown for all the wonderful thought provoking questions!
The Bible says, "Tell leaders the heart they are going to suffer with."
Sin is sin. Call it what it is.
With spiritual leadership, you serve your staff.
Your pride and ego are going to constantly hurt.
Our calling has to trump culture.
Can we empower other? Even if they take our power?
Ask yourself, "How can I be the best Jesus I can be?"
Can you celebrate people even when they are better than you?
Do I expand His kingdom or my reputation?
What difference does the Holy Spirit make in the way I lead?
If a non- believer had my job would they be doing it differently? The answer better be yes!
It will cost you a lot to be like Jesus, but it cost Him a whole lot more.
Joseph lost his colorful coat, but found character.
Jesus said, "Out serve your team and make them better."
Don't let the great things of leadership distract you from the God things of leadership.
As leaders, we might have the title, but whose kingdom is it?
It's not about greatness, it is about serving others.
Spiritual leadership will always be different than secular leadership.
If you read this, THANK YOU, Chris Brown for all the wonderful thought provoking questions!
WCAGLS and Colin Powell
I gotta be honest, when I read Colin Powell was going to be at The Global Leadership Summit I was turned off. People I knew were excited to see him and I didn't understand why. I mean he is a former U.S. Secretary of State so how interesting can he be?! I was so wrong, General Colin Powell was awesome! He was funny and he had so much good information to share. Below are some of the notes I took during his session.
There is no such thing as an unimportant person.
Invest in the people that get it done. This means give resources to them and take resources from them.
Power subordinates and trust them.
Constantly repeat themes.
Execution is the most important part of leadership.
It's all about attitude and aspiration. Say things like, "It'll look better in the morning."
Persuade to share interest not order.
Get mad and then get over it (shortly).
It freezes an organization when leaders get mad.
Find strengths and weaknesses in everyone. No one is perfect.
Leaders are people who solve problems.
Ego is a red flag with an emerging leader.
Promote people based on potential not performance.
Adapt to the personality of your subordinates. Do not make them adapt to you.
Do the best you can with the opportunity you have.
If you want to be a great leader, take care of your troops.
Trust is the glue that holds an organization together and the lubricant that keeps moving forward.
We have missions and goals, but it is the vision and purpose that matter most.
Leaders inspire people to reach beyond themselves.
I needed to hear Colin say, "Get mad and then get over it." Lately, I have been struggling with anger and holding grudges and he had a very good point. If I get mad over the small things or even big things for that matter and can't get over it quickly, people are going to stop coming to me. Not only will they not tell me the bad things, but they may stop telling me the good things and then maybe, somewhere down the line, they stop talking to me altogether. Plus, wouldn't you rather they came to you when the bad thing was like peanut sized not 13 pound ham size and too big to fix? I know I would so now, I am working on my anger and working on getting over it shortly.
There is no such thing as an unimportant person.
Invest in the people that get it done. This means give resources to them and take resources from them.
Power subordinates and trust them.
Constantly repeat themes.
Execution is the most important part of leadership.
It's all about attitude and aspiration. Say things like, "It'll look better in the morning."
Persuade to share interest not order.
Get mad and then get over it (shortly).
It freezes an organization when leaders get mad.
Find strengths and weaknesses in everyone. No one is perfect.
Leaders are people who solve problems.
Ego is a red flag with an emerging leader.
Promote people based on potential not performance.
Adapt to the personality of your subordinates. Do not make them adapt to you.
Do the best you can with the opportunity you have.
If you want to be a great leader, take care of your troops.
Trust is the glue that holds an organization together and the lubricant that keeps moving forward.
We have missions and goals, but it is the vision and purpose that matter most.
Leaders inspire people to reach beyond themselves.
I needed to hear Colin say, "Get mad and then get over it." Lately, I have been struggling with anger and holding grudges and he had a very good point. If I get mad over the small things or even big things for that matter and can't get over it quickly, people are going to stop coming to me. Not only will they not tell me the bad things, but they may stop telling me the good things and then maybe, somewhere down the line, they stop talking to me altogether. Plus, wouldn't you rather they came to you when the bad thing was like peanut sized not 13 pound ham size and too big to fix? I know I would so now, I am working on my anger and working on getting over it shortly.
WCAGLS and Liz Wiseman
Liz Wiseman was a speaker at The Global Leadership Summit. I knew I'd like her because we have the same name ;) Just kidding, she had some great points that I would like to share with you. Her session was on The Muliplier Effect and if you are interested in learning more about what that is, you should check out her book, Multipliers.
What do you do with the control you hold as a leader?
Multipliers are smart and know they are going to figure it out.
Deminishers are people who create stress.
We do the greatest damage when we hold noblest intentions.
We don't create followers when we set the pace. We create spectators.
We don't tend to drift into better behavior. We must work at it.
Are you creating a genius in your organization/people you are leading?
What if you addressed people in the form of questions and let them find the answers?
Working at all of our capability is exhilarating; working at half our capacity is exhausting.
Multipliers are trust gurus. They let the team drive.
Multipliers amplify the talents, intelligence, skills and capabilities of these around them.
Use your intelligence to amplify, to magnify the capability of the people around you.
I loved the question part of Liz's talk. She shared an example of putting the kids to bed at night. Instead of telling them 20 times to brush their teeth. Or, "No, go back into the bathroom and wash your hands." And on and on, if you are a parent or work with kids, you know how stressful bedtime can be. She suggested asking your kids questions. Say things like, "It's 8pm what does that mean?" "After you brush your teeth what do you do?" "How many books do we usually read?" She said when she starting asking questions the stress was nearly gone and get this, the kids listened, they knew the routine and didn't need her telling them what to do next. To me, all questions sounds stressful. I think I could start that way, but after 3 or 4 I'd automatically go back to telling. It is something I am going to try though!
What do you do with the control you hold as a leader?
Multipliers are smart and know they are going to figure it out.
Deminishers are people who create stress.
We do the greatest damage when we hold noblest intentions.
We don't create followers when we set the pace. We create spectators.
We don't tend to drift into better behavior. We must work at it.
Are you creating a genius in your organization/people you are leading?
What if you addressed people in the form of questions and let them find the answers?
Working at all of our capability is exhilarating; working at half our capacity is exhausting.
Multipliers are trust gurus. They let the team drive.
Multipliers amplify the talents, intelligence, skills and capabilities of these around them.
Use your intelligence to amplify, to magnify the capability of the people around you.
I loved the question part of Liz's talk. She shared an example of putting the kids to bed at night. Instead of telling them 20 times to brush their teeth. Or, "No, go back into the bathroom and wash your hands." And on and on, if you are a parent or work with kids, you know how stressful bedtime can be. She suggested asking your kids questions. Say things like, "It's 8pm what does that mean?" "After you brush your teeth what do you do?" "How many books do we usually read?" She said when she starting asking questions the stress was nearly gone and get this, the kids listened, they knew the routine and didn't need her telling them what to do next. To me, all questions sounds stressful. I think I could start that way, but after 3 or 4 I'd automatically go back to telling. It is something I am going to try though!
Monday, January 28, 2013
GPS
I took a GPS or Spiritual Gifts Assessment and found my results surprisingly close to what I expected the results to be. Now that I know my strengths and weaknesses I am working on ways to fine tune each area. I started by ordering 3 new books off Amazon tonight. Here are my gifts from my strengths to weaknesses. Many of these fell into the same number category.
Teaching: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by teaching sound doctrine in relevant ways, empowering people to gain a sound and mature spiritual education.
Exhortation: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by helping others live God-centered lives through inspiration, encouragement, counsel- ing, and empowerment.
Healing: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by healing and restoring to health, beyond traditional and natural means, those who are sick, hurting or suffering.
Hospitality: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by providing others with a warm and welcoming environment for community.
Miracles: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ through supernatural acts that bring validity to God and his power.
Leadership: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by casting vision, stimulating spiritual growth, applying strategies, and achieving success where God’s purposes are concerned.
Pastoring: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by taking spiritual responsibility for a group of believers and equipping them to live Christ-centered lives.
Wisdom: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by making wise decisions and counseling others with sound advice all in accordance with God’s will.
Giving: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by joyfully supporting and funding various Kingdom initiatives through material contributions beyond a regular tithe.
Faith: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by stepping out in faith in order to see God’s purposes accomplished, trusting him to handle any and all obstacles along the way.
Service: Offering others assistance in reaching goals that glorify God.
Knowledge: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by communicating God’s truth to others in a way that promotes justice, honesty and understanding.
Discernment: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by recognizing truth or error within a message, person or event.
Apostle: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by launching and leading new ministry ventures that advance God’s purposes and expand his Kingdom.
Mercy: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by ministering to those who suffer physically, emotionally, spiritually, or relationally. Their actions are characterized by love, care, compassion, and kindness toward others.
Administration: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by effectively organizing resources and people in order to efficiently reach ministry goals.
Evangelism: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by sharing the love of Christ with others in a way that draws them to respond by accepting God’s free gift of eternal life.
Prophecy: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by offering messages from God that comfort, encourage, guide, warn, or reveal sin in a way that leads to repentance and spiritual growth.
Tongues/ Interpretation of Tongues: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by communicating God’s message in a special language unknown to the speaker. / The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ to interpret the special language that is unknown to the speaker of tongues.
Thank you EBC for the video and definitions of each category. To view more or find your Spiritual Gifts please visit: http://eaglebrookchurch.com/gps
Teaching: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by teaching sound doctrine in relevant ways, empowering people to gain a sound and mature spiritual education.
Exhortation: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by helping others live God-centered lives through inspiration, encouragement, counsel- ing, and empowerment.
Healing: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by healing and restoring to health, beyond traditional and natural means, those who are sick, hurting or suffering.
Hospitality: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by providing others with a warm and welcoming environment for community.
Miracles: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ through supernatural acts that bring validity to God and his power.
Leadership: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by casting vision, stimulating spiritual growth, applying strategies, and achieving success where God’s purposes are concerned.
Pastoring: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by taking spiritual responsibility for a group of believers and equipping them to live Christ-centered lives.
Wisdom: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by making wise decisions and counseling others with sound advice all in accordance with God’s will.
Giving: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by joyfully supporting and funding various Kingdom initiatives through material contributions beyond a regular tithe.
Faith: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by stepping out in faith in order to see God’s purposes accomplished, trusting him to handle any and all obstacles along the way.
Service: Offering others assistance in reaching goals that glorify God.
Knowledge: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by communicating God’s truth to others in a way that promotes justice, honesty and understanding.
Discernment: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by recognizing truth or error within a message, person or event.
Apostle: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by launching and leading new ministry ventures that advance God’s purposes and expand his Kingdom.
Mercy: Serve and strengthen the body of Christ by ministering to those who suffer physically, emotionally, spiritually, or relationally. Their actions are characterized by love, care, compassion, and kindness toward others.
Administration: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by effectively organizing resources and people in order to efficiently reach ministry goals.
Evangelism: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by sharing the love of Christ with others in a way that draws them to respond by accepting God’s free gift of eternal life.
Prophecy: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by offering messages from God that comfort, encourage, guide, warn, or reveal sin in a way that leads to repentance and spiritual growth.
Tongues/ Interpretation of Tongues: The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ by communicating God’s message in a special language unknown to the speaker. / The God-given ability to serve and strengthen the body of Christ to interpret the special language that is unknown to the speaker of tongues.
Thank you EBC for the video and definitions of each category. To view more or find your Spiritual Gifts please visit: http://eaglebrookchurch.com/gps
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